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Saturday, December 2, 2017

WEEK 16: SUCCESS IS MECHANICAL

Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, create a life you do not want to escape from.  Seth Godin


REFLECTIONS (learnings and actions): I saw the quote this week and it was so powerful.

This week I want to write to you about some powerful insights I am learning about success, so you can close the gap between where you are and achieve your dreams so you can do just that...create a life you do not want to escape from.

Success, a much sought after thing, yet most of us have no real way of knowing how to achieve it on a consistent basis.

Similar to the mythical unicorn, everyone says they have seen it from time to time, but only a select few know where they can find it on a consistent basis.  

Now, in the past I have talked about the idea that success is mechanical. What I mean, is you are at your current place of success or failure, due to the consistent actions you take on a daily basis. (Lead Indicators). 

For example, if you are in the best, or worst, shape of your life it is because of what you do on a daily basis, not what you do every once in a while.

Today, I want to take this a step further and connect it to some DEEP insights I have lately.

What I have already shared is very powerful, yet what I am going to explain next is similar to seeing the rest of a partially submerged iceberg in its entirety. Mind blowing.

Like I mentioned above, success is mechanical. 

Now this requires you to take consistent, daily action to achieve it. Additionally, you will need to autocorrect and take the the appropriate actions frequently in order to make the necessary changes to move closer to achieving your goals.

Autocorrecting involves the integral task of separating FACT from opinion. This is so important, as if we let our opinions cloud the situation, the actions we take can lead us astray.

For example, you study for two hours for an exam, only to get a C. Your opinion is studying for long hours does not make a difference, thus you decide to study less for the next exam, which produces an even lower grade.

Or, you could have separated FACT from opinion first to produce a more favorable result. In the case above, you could have analyzed how you spent those two hours and eliminated things which did not help you (chatting on social media) and replaced those with more beneficial actions. 

This process of autocorrecting and taking action is similar to how a plane gets from one location to the next. We often times feel we get into the air and then it is a linear path to our destination. Where as, in reality, we are constantly zigging and zagging according to the elements in the air, so we can arrive at our destination in the shortest amount of time.

Now the opinions which could our judgement usually show up in the form of negative emotions. Frustration, aggressiveness, insecurity...take your pick.

Often times theses feelings have a negative connotation as they take us out of our comfort zone. Thus, we try to avoid them at all costs if we encounter them, which often times means you quit. 

However, these negative emotions are actually an inherent part of taking on a meaningful goal, for example, closing the gap between where you are and achieving you dreams. 

Furthermore, they warning signs telling you need to plot a new path to achieve what you are trying to do. It is your automatic success mechanism, or ASM, saying you are heading in the wrong direction.

Now we all feel frustration and these other negative emotions, no one is immune. I mean NO ONE. The Pope, Richard Branson, everyone. However, the most success people on the planet are those who can identify these negative emotions as what they are...warning signs to analyze the FACTS and then to take corrective actions.

This process of reading negative emotions properly involves three steps:

1. Awareness. You need to understand no one is immune and will feel these emotions on the path to closing the gap between where you are and achieving your dreams (or any other worthwhile endeavor). They are inherent part of the process and signaling you to autocorrect.

2. Understand at a deep level fostering or magnifying these negative feelings (doubt, fear, anger, aggressiveness, insecurity...)  do not help you in solving your problems. 

It is like when a child throws a tantrum and just cries louder and louder to get a toy. It might of helped you when you were younger, but this infant like behavior will not serve you as you get older. Life will not come with a gentle hand when you cry LOUDER and complain when you do not achieve what you want. Understand it does not work!

3. Read them properly, as warning signs to take corrective action. Separate FACT from opinion and then use that truth to take the appropriate actions moving forward.

Thus, know success is mechanical and you will encounter negative feelings on the path of closing the gap between where you are and achieving your dreams. 

However, be vigilant to identify them properly so you can AUTOCORRECT and ACT accordingly!


Top three activities that move me forward?

1. Listen and implement ideas from the life hack podcast! Growing in my relationships daily.
2. Listen and implement actions from audible. Such powerful insights about success learned and being implemented. 
3. Being disciplined to keep zen for my body. More energy, more time to devote to my LP, so many benefits!


Biggest lessons and learnings?

CVVCR...Choices Validate Vision and Create Reality. I will write about this later, but it is huge!


What are you grateful for?

Optimal health. I am now at 67.5 kilos (148.5) pounds and reached my target weight in less than 2 months time. Yet, the most incredible thing is I have the CLARITY on how to stay here for the rest of my life!

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PLANNING (Implementation Intention):  You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.

I plan to complete the weekly task [day] at [time] in [location]. 

A reminder you might have to use multiple Implementation Intentions in order to follow through.


EXECUTION (strategies used):  From week to week, I use a combination of many strategies. There are always some which are used more than others depending on what comes up, but I wanted to offer a link to all them at once. 

My advice is to identify the I CAN'T statement you tell yourself during the most. Then find a strategy below the statement which resonates with you, and then start using it. 

Enjoy!

Sunday, November 26, 2017

WEEK 115: 100% COMMITMENT

Desire is the key to motivation, but it is determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you attain the success you seek.    

Mario Andretti

REFLECTIONS (learnings and actions): Happy Thanksgiving everyone. 

This week I want to discuss the idea of being 100% committed. This is a topic I have spoken about earlier in The Leap process, but events this week highlighted its power. 

I learned this from Dane Maxwell, who is the co-owner of The Foundation where they teach anyone how to create a software business from scratch. Oh, by the way he is a multi-millionaire as well.

It was early on in my Leap Process, but what he said was blaring through my mind this week.

"100% commitment is easy, while 99% is a B(^$%!"

Often times we feel the opposite of this statement. We think it will be much more challenging to be 100% committed all the time, rather than a majority of the time.

For example, you want to eat healthier, yet you feel you will be tempted and it will be super hard to stay 100% committed to a food plan which will actually works with your body.

Or 

You want to get that internship, promotion, or whatever else you desire, yet you think you will be distracted by missing out on social events. 

The point is, what Dane and quite a lot of other successful people have said about commitment is completely true.

Being 100% committed is so much easier than being anything else. 

Let me tell you why.

I have started a new lifestyle change with my eating habits and in the past six weeks have lost 8 kilos. That is right 8 kilos. I have not weighed this much since high school.

It was hard to adjust to the eating plan at first (as any big change does) and I had to let go of a lot of the myths I was taught about food since a young age. Now as apart of this plan you are able to have "load days" where you are able to consume some things you were not able to eat in the previous six weeks.

Now there are a few more stipulations, yet I ignored them and decided to go full tilt and eat all the things I had wanted to eat, but could not. 

The result? Being keeled over, stomach pains, and running to the bathroom all night.

Now why do I tell you this story? How does this connect to you on the path to closing the gap between where you are and achieving yoru dreams?

It goes back to being 100% committed. 

I had followed a program which had produced amazing results and yet I decided not to listen to it and try my own thing. 

Funny thing is we often do this. We reach a level of success following a set of successful guidelines, and then think we can do whatever we want and it will still work. (This is the 99% being committed)

The result is we fall off the wagon, as they would say, and we are frustrated as why things are not working.

But...

If you were to analyze your inputs or your lead indicators (daily decisions and actions) you would clearly be able to see you were not 100% committed. If you were, then you would not be where you are in the first place. 

To pull this all together. 

Be 100% committed to your LP through the tough times, and especially the good times. This will allow you to save the mental energy for your 20% actions which will accelerate your progress. 

Make the decision to close the gap between where you are and achieving your dreams and be 100% committed to making this your reality.

Top three activities that move me forward?

1. Listening to life podcast daily. Really honing on becoming a better mate.
2. Listening to and scribing with audible. So powerful!
3. Going back to eating following nutri-90 guidelines.


Biggest lessons and learnings?

Being 100% committed. Makes it all so much easier. 


What are you grateful for?

Being able to give my amazing wife a much needed weekend with friends! It gave me the opportunity to play with and connect with my children!

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PLANNING (Implementation Intention):  You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.

I plan to complete the weekly task [day] at [time] in [location]. 

A reminder you might have to use multiple Implementation Intentions in order to follow through.


EXECUTION (strategies used):  From week to week, I use a combination of many strategies. There are always some which are used more than others depending on what comes up, but I wanted to offer a link to all them at once. 

My advice is to identify the I CAN'T statement you tell yourself during the most. Then find a strategy below the statement which resonates with you, and then start using it. 

Enjoy!